Comparison kills creativity and joy. – Brené Brown
Ours All Along – The Unfair Series – Part 5
In the Parable of the Workers in the Vineyard, comparison and jealousy are challenged. One morning, at 6am, a Landowner (I feel like we should call him Bill), Bill offered some guys a day's work for a day's wage: a denarius. They agreed, everyone was happy. The guys went to work and more workers joined them throughout the day. Still all good. The crap hit the fan when those who worked least were paid the same as those who worked most. Even though those who worked most got what they agreed upon at the start of the day.
“Comparison kills creativity and joy.” Queen B (Brené Brown).
There’s a myth that gets played as truth in our lives that there is an A-team and a B-team. The A-team are those who turn up at 6am. Those who do everything right. Those who are skilled and noticed and refined. Those who are picked and pleasing and perfect. Those who have social clout and achievements and non-empty bank accounts.
The B team is for the rest of us: those who turned up late; who didn’t get picked, can’t seem to get a break or do things right. The ones with no clout, who go unnoticed and forgotten, who’s transactions get declined at the ATM…
Much of modern life in the western world is people trying to get from Team B to Team A, and then trying to stay there. Because there’s this big little myth that Team A is where it's at, and it can only have so many members.
What if I told you that there are no teams? What if I told you that life isn’t about getting ahead? What if I told you that fairness is not something society can thrive on?
Because at the end of the day, our proverbial landowner in our little parable is less interested in who turned up first and who worked the hardest than he is concerned about whether everyone had enough to eat.
Jesus told a story where the landowner gives the same because there is no shortage to what he can provide, there is more than enough to go around, scarcity is a myth and grace is not based on fairness. There is no such thing as “Team A and Team B” there is just humanity. We’re all in this together, and whether we realize it early or late, it’s always the right time to wake up and see that the grace we’ve searched for our whole lives has been ours all along.
We want things to be fair until we don’t.
We want things to be fair as long as the fairness is on our side.
We are obsessed with fairness.
That is until we are in need of some divine, unfair grace.
To which, nothing can compare.
Written by Liz Milani