“Words kill, words give life; they’re either poison or fruit—you choose.”
“Words kill, words give life; they’re either poison or fruit—you choose.” (Proverbs 18:21 MSG).
I don’t think any of us have been spared the pain of horrible words. Things spoken over us – some dripping with contempt, others meant for good but wrongly said, others just plain ignorant – that have brought a little bit of death into your life.
What do we do with those words?
Take some time today to think about all the words that have hurt you. Yep, it might be painful. Examine them, maybe even write
them down. Next to each saying that’s brought you death, write the opposite underneath. Something that brings life and light to the darkness. Then cross out the dead words. Reject them. It sounds corny, but I’ve done this many times.
“It takes discipline to choose which words to use and to choose which words will take up home in your heart.”
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It takes discipline to choose which words to use and to choose which words will take up home in your heart.
But the more you exercise this practice, the easier it will become. Grace your way through it.
Hearing harsh words is never easy. I get emails and messages and comments from people attacking me and my ideas and my faith. I do two things: ask myself if there is any truth to their criticism. And often, there is a tiny bit in each one. A tiny bit.
Then I remind myself that attacking, hurtful comments usually reveal more about the pain and hardness of the heart of the person who said them, than anything to do with me. Then I pray (most of the time…haha!) for them. Cos hey “Be kind, everyone's facing a battle we know nothing about,” right?
And then sometimes, I cry. I ask God, why? Why can’t people see my goodness? Is there even any there?
And there is. In each of us.
You might need a friend to help you walk through some of the words, or a counsellor, or a psychologist, or some peace and quiet, a walk on the beach, a big bowl of hot chips, a steaming mug of coffee… whatever it is that brings healing and wholeness, pursue that.
Then with your words, spoken inwardly and outwardly, create the world you want to inhabit.
Written by Liz Milani