I’ve tried everything and nothing helps. I’m at the end of my rope. Is there no one who can do anything for me? Isn’t that the real question? Romans 7:24 (MSG)
A Lifetime of Transformation – The Journey Series – Part 4
There is saying used in the recovery movement:
“Wherever you go, there you are.”
Obvious, right? But I think we’ve all been places where we’ve wondered how we got there, only to realize that we brought ourselves there. It takes the death of pride and the vitality of humility to admit that.
A few years ago, I was diagnosed with adrenal fatigue. My husband and I were in a challenging season and decided to make some changes in our lives. We were pastors on staff at a great church but decided to resign our positions and move onto other work. It was incredibly tempting to blame our heartache, delusions, and woes on others. On the system. On those within the system. Blaming other people is way easier than taking responsibility for yourself.
We wrestled with it for some time and discovered that it's not until you accept responsibility for where you are that you can start to move on. WE got ourselves to where we were. It was a pivotal moment.
There have been things that have happened to me that I have had no control over. I know that's true for all of us. But I still responded and reacted to those situations. I still had the power to get help or reject it. It's been up to me to continue living my life. It's been in the owning of my reactions and responses that I’ve found the freedom to pick myself up and walk on.
Pride and anger keep you anchored to trauma and stagnation.
Sometimes the miracle isn’t the instant healing. Sometimes it's in the ability to slay our pride, lay it down in situations that are of our own doing, and those that have been the results of other people's choices. It's a miracle because it's a difficult, near impossible, thing to do.
I believe change and transformation cannot truly take place until we take responsibility for where we are. Sometimes the miracle is in finding the humility and vulnerability to tell a friend what's happened to you, or to hear a friend say, “I get that you’re hurting, but you are where you because you got yourself there.” That’s how we take our power back.
The miracle of salvation is not a moment of exchange. It's a lifetime of transformation; of being healed and made whole. It lives WITH you and INTO your life, every part of it. The good, the bad, the unexpected, the deserved and the underserved, the fair and the unfair… The Christ is always there, with you, leading you, healing you, willing you on day-by-day.
Sure, I believe that God heals and restores. I believe that amazing things can happen in a single moment of power. If my kids get sick, I pray for a miracle. If our finances are challenging, I pray for a miracle. But the longer I live, the more I am learning to appreciate the liminal space, the time in-between. It’s not just a time of waiting; it is itself a time of healing and growth.
You’ve heard the saying, “They won’t change until they’ve hit rock bottom.”
I’m learning to run to “rock-bottom,” to embrace it with open arms. I can’t help but think that if we were to arrive at our greatest moments of weakness, stress, and hopelessness quicker, we might experience divine strength, grace and healing a little sooner. I’m not talking about being destructive. I’m talking about the moments where you to come to the end of yourself. Face to face with your demons. Head to head with your heartaches.
Paul wrote to his friends in Rome and said: “I’ve tried everything and nothing helps. I’m at the end of my rope. Is there no one who can do anything for me? Isn’t that the real question? The answer, thank God, is that Jesus Christ can and does. He acted to set things right in this life of contradictions where I want to serve God with all my heart and mind, but am pulled by the influence of sin to do something totally different.” (Romans 7:24-25 MSG).
At the end of your rope is the beginning of healing.
Written by Liz Milani
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