Come freely and boldly to where love is enthroned, to receive mercy’s kiss and discover the grace we urgently need. Hebrews 4:16 TPT
Come Freely and Boldly – The Gratitude Series – Part 4
Gratitude is something you give. It’s an act of generosity.
People who find it hard to say ‘thank you' do so because of the position they give lack in their lives. Whether its a lack of empathy and connection, or whether all they can see is what they lack and what they’re owed. It doesn’t always look prideful and arrogant. People who think nothing of themselves are filled with lack, too. The lack of the belief in their own worth.
I’ll write more on this in a series to come, but I want to make the point here that worth has nothing to do with anything. That's the actual definition of grace, isn’t it? That whether or not we deserve infinite love, we already have it. It’s a gift. “Worthiness” isn’t a factor. We sing songs and write blog posts and read books about how we don’t deserve the grace of God, but that was never the point. The point is grace. Worthiness shouldn’t even get air time.
When I started to understand this and believe it, it empowered me to “come freely and boldly to where love is enthroned, to receive mercy’s kiss and discover the grace we urgently need.” (Hebrews 4:16).
Because my needing of mercy and grace doesn’t make any less of a person. My acceptance of them and confidence in them makes me a human that accepts the gift of grace and lives it all the way through. It makes me feel like I’m in on the biggest, worst kept secret, in the world.
Grace is a gift that's meant to be received.
And gratitude? That’s something you give out of that generous grace.
During Jewish worship services, they’re a series of blessings recited called the “Amidah.” For every blessing of the Amidah, it’s enough just to reply “Amen.” Except for one. When the leader says the words Modim anachnu lakh, “We give thanks to You,” the congregation replies with the “Modim de-Rabbanan.” This is because when it comes to saying thank you, you cannot delegate this away to someone else to do it for you. Thanks has to come directly from you.
Gratitude is an act of generosity. It’s something that you give freely as a gift. No hooks, no conditions. A gift.
But it takes time to learn. It takes time to let generosity make room in your life for giving. It’s something you practice with yourself, and with others, and with strangers. It’s not about having the money or things or items or time to give away. Generosity is first and foremost an attitude of the heart. A position of grace itself. Generosity knows that all of life is a gift. Generosity knows that worthiness isn’t even a factor. And from this position of grace and freedom, it gives of itself as a gift.
Generosity can be confronting. It flies in the face of our current modern day system of owing and paying and making our own way at the expense of others. It declares that there is enough for everyone. That the energy of generosity creates more and more room, more and more resource for everyone. It levels that playing field to be one of grace.
You can’t outsource it or delegate it.
For gratitude to work its miracle in you, you have to give it yourself.