If you need wisdom, ask our generous God, and he will give it to you. He will not rebuke you for asking. James 1:5 (NIV)
I grew up in an age where academic competition drove many to ‘pretend' that we had all the answers rather than to ‘ask boldly' any questions we may have had in regards to any given topic. I became very fearful of asking for help, and asking questions when I needed answers, in case it made me look ignorant, ridiculous, and really just stupid. I desperately didn't want to be stupid. I began to attach my self-worth and value to the success of my performance and level of achievement. Asking questions and asking for help was something I seldom did.
But after many years of experiencing the drawbacks of living like this (hello!!!!), I'm learning that not knowing something and needing help in an area does not mean that I am stupid or ridiculous. And really, putting myself out there for help actually makes me the smart one. Pride keeps you limited; humility opens up new realms of knowledge and wisdom as you continue to ask, grow and learn.
God is not waiting to see what you get right or wrong and score you accordingly as on a test. He is with us every day, everywhere, in everything. If you need help, if you need guidance or wisdom, it's simple – just ask. God is generous, not stingy. He will not judge you according to your own wisdom, knowledge, performance and achievement. He sees you through the blood of Jesus – restored, redeemed, highly valued, and loved. He won't be mad that you asked for help… in fact, He will be proud. Proud that you can say “no” to your own pride, lower your defences and boldly come before the throne of grace bringing your requests to the Him.
Go ahead and ask for wisdom, ask for guidance and counsel from Jesus. I can't think of anyone who could help us more… more willingly or lovingly. Love you guys – get praying!