What good is it, dear brothers and sisters, if you say you have faith but don’t show it by your actions – James 2:14 (MSG)

What You Say – Affirmation and Action Series – Part 1

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I was sitting at my desk when I heard a bang, a gasp, then the tortured wail of a child in full limbic mode (aka loosing his crap). I turned to see my son holding his face, dragging his cheeks down with his fingers, tears popping out of his bulging eyes as they looked down to the floor witnessing the horror unfolding in front of him.

He had dropped the Nintendo Switch in the middle of defeating a beast in Zelda.
His reaction was a real thing.

He was crying and muttering to himself as he picked it up and put it on the couch next to him.

“I’m just so clumsy.” He kept on saying. “I’m always making mistakes.”

Then, he swung his hands down from his face, they impacted with the device and knocked it from the couch to the floor, sending one controller scooting across the room.


The crap hit the fan. And the negative self-talk escalated to point heartbreak.

I watched and then intervened with a torn heart. I hate seeing my kid in pain. More, I hate to hear him talk about himself like that. We chatted and hugged, and he went back off playing, but my mind raced. Have I modeled that kind of self-talk? Was he clumsy before he declared himself to be? Was his negative self-talk a painful truth? Or something he's talked himself into, created with his words?

I was more upset about his reaction to what he had done than what he had actually done.

Our words have power (it seems to be a theme I can’t shake). But without the backup of our blood and bone and sweat and breath, they’re just air. Words and actions are partners, co-creators, besties.

I grew up in a faith community that “spoke things into being” at every opportunity. So much declaring and ‘faith-talk.' We weren’t supposed to say things like, “I have a headache, this is hard, I don’t agree, I’m not enjoying this, I don’t think this will work,’ because “what you confess is what you get.” But really, we lived in a loop of denial, and the words often fell flat on the floor.

I’ve shied away from “affirmations” for a long time because of it. I felt (and still do) that many use them as a way to deny reality and responsibility. Eg. “Money comes to me easily and effortlessly… so I’m just going to sit on the couch and wait for it to come.”

Ah, no.

When my son dropped his Nintendo Switch on the floor, he had done something clumsy. He had done something that could have broken a toy he loved. What he said about himself at that moment was true.

Sort of.

It was also false. It was building an identity that said, “I’m clumsy, and I’ve got the proof to back that fact up, and this information somehow makes me broken and ashamed.” He was so keenly disappointed in himself, it was palpable. Creative, even.

I do the same thing. I’m guessing you do, too (to some degree…). Our actions, or lack thereof, give weight to our words. And vice versa.

So how do we speak the truth in faith and love? What actions do we affirm with our words? And what do our words affirm about our lives, our bodies, and the world? How do we express our emotions and fears and worries and doubts?

Affirmations and actions are kindred. Affirmations don’t work without movement. And if you’re not diligent about what you say, you can’t be diligent about what you build with your life.

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What good is it, dear brothers and sisters, if you say you have faith but don’t show it by your actions?” James 2:14 (MSG).

Go to You Are Made From Love – Affirmation and Action Series – Part 2

Written by Liz
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